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Cactus Lesson at Devil’s Backbone

August 9th, 2010
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As long as there are bugs, plants, and critter noises scattered about, young children will be entertained by the wild. On Saturday July 24, 2010, we just looked out the window at breakfast and decided it was such a beautiful day that we had to do something! We hit the trail for Devil’s Backbone near Loveland at about 9:45.

IMG 5324 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils Backbone

Being a short hike, we thought the baby could handle it without a kid carrier backpack. I’m certain that he’s plenty strong. That 17mo body already wears size 2T. But we quickly ran into problems with his mood; he just didn’t want to hike that day. As a result, our arms got a bit more workout than expected! Here we are starting roughly northward.

My other two kids, however, were fascinated by ants, dragonflies, beetles, and the like. I spotted many scrunchy little cacti clumps in the grass and asked Melody if she knew what a cactus looks like. She thought she did, you know, tall with a couple of fat monkey-arms out the sides. I said not all cacti look like that and challenged her to find some along the trail. I gave her clues about size, shape, and color and we passed many clumps before she recognized it. After that, she pointed it out at every turn, so proud of her new knowledge of “cacti” which was a new word to be proud of too.

The trail is very easy in the lower half, being well worn and relatively free of tripping hazards. There is a bridge or two to cross and some actual steps to ascend. The kids did better climbing up along the side because they kept tripping on the steps. The trail is shared by mountain bikes and horses; some sections are designated for foot travel only. The foot travel portions get a bit more rocky and uneven.

IMG 5343 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneWe reached the Keyhole and were rewarded with a nice view of the valley to the west of the ridge. There is a little room to walk down through the keyhole and explore the rocks, being mindful of course of the posted dangers of rock instability. Behind the south edge of the keyhole is a well-worn rock face begging to be climbed by small children, and mine was no exception! There’s a sort of hollow “nest” at the top.

IMG 5348 225x300 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneMelody starts up the rocks

IMG 5349 225x300 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneGetting higher and eyeing the “nest”

IMG 5352 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackbonePersistence pays off

IMG 5345 c 252x300 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneWhen she got back down (with a little help) we took a few more pictures on the rocks and headed back.

IMG 5347 150x150 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneThe views were pretty, though not spectacular as the farmland in the valley is inhabited. The best part of the view is that it’s a break from looking at the side of the rocky ridge through most of the hike, and you can see the skyline of the Rocky Mountain range. Many major peaks are named on an info sign at an earlier viewpoint. (Okay, yes there are also views to the east of the trail but those are mostly hills, and also inhabited. There is a clear view of Mariana Butte to the south as well.)

IMG 5331 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneI was pleased to see this sign at an observation point as I had searched unsuccessfully for just such a map on the internet a few days prior. I took several close-up photos so I can try to learn the peaks at home.

IMG 5353 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneHere you can see more of the ridge on our way back to the trailhead. Daddy’s taking a turn hauling the little muffin. He really did hike some, but was just having an off day. We sure wished we’d brought the baby backpack!

It was lunch time and since the whole trip was spontaneous, we hadn’t packed a meal. We decided on the way down to stop at a Chinese buffet in Loveland.

IMG 5354 300x225 Cactus Lesson at Devils BackboneBy now the kids were hungry, which slowed them down. We kept promising that the faster they could get to the car, the faster we could go out to eat. They love restaurants, so that proved to be good motivation. Here’s a final shot looking down the south end of the Devil’s Backbone. They did great and love talking about our summer hikes this year.

As for me, I got a little emotional on the way down thinking how blessed I am to finally be enjoying frequent nature outings with my family, a dream I’ve held for several years. This summer has been a turning point, now that we are done having children and nobody is pregnant or age two. One more summer of “age two” next year and we’re out of the woods! Or more likely, headed into the woods more often.

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RMNP With Friends (photos)

August 6th, 2010
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What fun to host old friends visiting from Oregon a few weeks ago. We spent a day touring the Rocky Mountain National Park, following Trail Ridge Road to the Alpine Visitor Center where Richard and I got engaged ten years ago. Of course we stopped at several lookouts on the way up and back. It was by far the best weather I’ve seen up there with no ominous clouds  rolling in at lunch time. Our intention was to hike around Sprague Lake in the afternoon but spending over two hours at the Visitor Center and slowly enjoying the observation points left us no time to spare getting home to host our church cell group that evening. (We arrived with fifteen minutes to spare!) We gave our guests directions to Sprague Lake and left them to finish up the afternoon by themselves before continuing their journey toward Colorado Springs.

IMG 5224 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)We climbed The Dam Store tower heading into the canyon

IMG 5225 225x300 RMNP With Friends (photos)Gabriel enjoyed climbing rocks wherever we stopped

IMG 5228 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Melody in the mountains

IMG 5233 225x300 RMNP With Friends (photos)Gabriel and his dad, possibly at Many Parks Curve?

IMG 5234 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Mama and Trevor, at Many Parks Curve?

IMG 5235 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Jaron climbing around too

IMG 5236 225x300 RMNP With Friends (photos)Gabriel and Melody make it to the top

IMG 5238 225x300 RMNP With Friends (photos)The vastness of RMNP

IMG 5243 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Lightning safety talk at the Visitor Center
Gabriel is wearing raingear and sitting cross-legged on top of a backpack

IMG 5244 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)View probably from the Gore Range viewpoint

IMG 5247 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Field of elk

IMG 5248 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Melody and Trevor at Rock Cut, one of my favorite viewpoints

IMG 5249 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)All of us at Rock Cut

IMG 5251 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Marmot peeking out from the rocks

IMG 5252 300x225 RMNP With Friends (photos)Trevor and the Great Divide (the section straight above his head)
This is my favorite picture of the day!

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Confessions of Imperfection

July 29th, 2010
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“Mom!” I heard fear in my daughter’s voice as I unbuckled my middle kid. Suddenly my giggling baby was flying “wheee” toward me on a stolen tricycle across the OUAC parking lot and that’s not all, a car had to brake for him. Later I knew I should have apologized and lavishly thanked the driver for taking care. In the moment I felt too embarrassed and incompetent to even make eye contact. I snatched up the baby (unhappy to relinquish the tricycle) and held him tight.

My daughter was supposed to be holding the baby’s hand. But at six, she isn’t responsible for a one-year-old in front of a toy store. The baby brother is strong, fast and capricious. From now on, he will always be the last one removed from the car.

Why is it that I take comfort in the fact that I’m not the only mama who suffers significant lapses in parenting finesse? Wouldn’t it be better for children everywhere if I really was the only recurrently maladroit mother out there? Yet as I read “get born” facebook confessions of moms who forgot to buckle safety seats, forgot to feed a toddler, spaced the daycare pickup, or can’t remember children’s birthdays at the doctor, I know we share a bond of imperfection. My neighbor’s daughter drank cough syrup. A friend’s son choked down coins and she had to recover them from subsequent diapers.

I once arrived at a MOPS meeting and discovered in the parking lot that I had only two kids with me and my week-old newborn was still at home, sleeping in his carrier just inside the door. Can anybody I know outdo that? I HOPE NOT, but I wouldn’t doubt it. I’m tempted to scrutinize other moms when they’re having a good day, convince myself they are always full of beauty, wisdom and eternal patience, and measure myself inadequate. I begin to fantasize that they never fall from grace and there must be something seriously wrong with me, living in such blatant humanity.

Those reminders that I’m not alone help curb the tendency to indulge in a classic guilt-ridden pity party probably involving excessive chocolate or corn chips. Well that and looking in my children’s endlessly loving and forbearing faces. I really don’t expect my middle son to harbor ill feelings about the preventable tantrum scar on his eyebrow, or the fact that his bike helmet is tough to fit on his misshapen skull forever flat on one side and pointy on top because I neglected to rotate his sleeping head in his first four months of life. No, he will forgive and love me just as my daughter has after being accidentally locked in the garage for ten terrified minutes – and just as the baby brother will if he ever finds out his mama let him loose in front of traffic.

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The Sunrise Yurt

June 21st, 2010
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sunrise yurt“What’s a yurt?” I hear that at least half the time I mention the word. It’s a hut-shaped canvas tent on a wooden frame and deck, equipped with bunk beds, a table and chairs, and a skylight. We camped in one for the first time a week ago at Bear Creek Lake Park west of Denver. The campsite came with the usual fire pit, grill, picnic table, and mosquitos.

purple flowersAlthough I grew up tent camping every summer at secluded lakes surrounded by lush lodgepole pine forests in the Oregon Cascades, my Singapore-raised husband is a greenhorn. Our only previous kid camping experience was in 2007 with a 3-yr-old and a 4-mo baby. The 3-yr got bored, scraped her knee on a rock, and woke at 4am jabbering on and on about the stars and how stinky the tent was. Good thing we only planned an overnight trip. The baby was totally easy, hanging out on a blanket during the day and waking once to nurse at night. Well he did have a very inconvenient diaper blowout but hey, it’s not like outhouses are all that convenient either!

playground slidesWith a 6-yr, 3-yr, and 16-mo baby this summer, we thought we’d have another go. Not owning a large tent, the yurt was perfect. And the campground, though not the private and pristine wonderland of my childhood memories, was a big hit when all the kids saw not one but two playgrounds, a horse barn, and a swim beach selling ice cream bars by Big Soda Lake. We spent hours at the playgrounds and splashing in the water, when the kids weren’t collecting rocks in plastic cups or tossing the frisbee or playing house in the 2-man backpacking tent we set up just for fun. I gave them an inflatable chair inside the tent and they kept pretending it was a potty.

marshmallow pancakesBut what’s a camping trip without some little mishaps? I bought plastic spatulas at the thrift store for my camp frypan and didn’t think about a flipper for hamburgers on the charcoal grill. Ok, drag out the grilling cage we registered for when we got married and have never ever used. The burgers hung out of the edges but still cooked up great under my husband’s grilling expertise. Next challenge: pancakes for breakfast. Sounds easy, but I forgot to bring *any* butter, syrup, jam, honey, anything remotely resembling pancake toppings, and the pancake batter itself was an unsweetened biscuit-style mix. In fact the only significantly sweet item in the food chest besides whole fruit was marshmallows for the s’mores we’d enjoyed by the fire the night before. Out came the roasting sticks, and marshmallow-filled pancakes soon graced the picnic table.

white wildflowersComforting a crying 3-yr-old at 1am who didn’t want to walk a quarter mile to the toilet and kept insisting we go home right away was distinctly the low point of the trip. He woke the baby in the portacrib, who Daddy cuddled back to sleep and shared his bunk with until morning. And tropical-blooded Daddy needs to remember a heavy blanket next time! Again, good thing it was just one night. We concluded that our family is still quite young for full fledged camping and maybe we should stick to day trips for a while.

At least that’s what we thought on the way home… but with all the fun we shared as a family, here we are a few days later thinking about how to plan the next camping adventure. It’s surprising how easy it was to minimize the bad and crave a repeat of the good. All we need is a family tent and some kind of cargo solution for the gear…

loaded car…and another destination with a playground and flushing toilets wouldn’t be a bad idea! I can survive this kind of “camping” – views of RVs through thin trees, Home Depot perched on the hill, suburban lights flanking the night skyline – for a few more years. My first camping memories were around age 7 or 8 and continued until I left home, so perhaps I’m not really ripping off my kids by not exposing them to truly rugged and hard-core camping at the preschool stage. Although I feel their childhood flying by so fast, I have to remember that they really are still little and there is still time for dozens of quiet and remote family camping memories to be made. And dozens more s’mores to be eaten.

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The Good Kind of Sore

June 3rd, 2010
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Last month I took my first “Spin and Tone” class twice a week at Aztlan. After three pregnancies (my final baby now 15 months old) I have no abs, unless you count belly fat hidden by loose fitting t-shirts. Technically I’ve reached my pre-pregnancy weight… so why are my favorite blue shorts still tight? As it turns out, pre-pregnancy SHAPE is an entirely different endeavor! While I’m not optimistic about certain body parts (like the ones that nursed three infants), I am determined to get in shape this summer and shed the final five pounds to my long-elusive goal. My simple motive: to energetically enjoy Colorado’s beautiful hiking, biking, and camping with my family, and maybe even learn to snow board this year.

So I took a class. We rode spin bikes for 45 minutes in a guided workout of sprints and hills, standing runs and hovering climbs. Then we grabbed free weights, floor mats and fit balls for another 15 minutes of toning. Though a step up from biking my daughter to school every day, I could handle the spin section alright. The combination of Pilates, plyometrics and weight training, however, truly wore me out. I tried to take it easy the first night, but the next day I was unmistakeably sore – the good kind of sore.

I spent most of May feeling the good kind of sore. Though weight loss has been negligible, in just one month my energy and endurance are rising and the belly is beginning to shrink. I graduated from knee pushups to regular ones on my toes and I no longer roll off a bosu ball backwards. I even wore those blue shorts last week.

Biking on the Poudre River TrailThe best thing, though, has been to enjoy family bike rides more and more. On Mother’s Day we rode the greenbelt trails north of our neighborhood, me pulling the two boys in a trailer and my recent kindergarten graduate chasing Daddy on her own bike. The next week Mama took the kids out alone. On Memorial Day we all rode the Poudre River Trail (photo) through the hot afternoon and to my amazement, I was hardly tired at the end.

I love these family excursions. My husband and I like to dream about the hiking and biking adventures we will have when the kids are all old enough to keep up. Yesterday I put training wheels on the three-year-old’s black and yellow 12-inch garage sale bike. Soon there will be one less for me to pull behind!

This month my self-selected torture is 7 a.m. “Shreadmill” with a treadmill workout followed by circuit training. My first class was yesterday and I’m feeling sore yet again. The good kind of sore.

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